Two is better than one?

Hi, I promised to write something interesting right.   

So yeah, there has been some kind of questions that you can ask people on insta, and I got lots on "are you single?" compared to other questions.

At one point, I guess it is happier to say, I am not single. I have someone that I can share personal stuff, daily things going on, internal probs, sweet talks and stuff you do with your partner.

But, is being single really something bad?

What I wanna tell you here is something that I can validate based on my experiences hahaha definitely not everything is legit but yeah maybe you can relate.

Okay, before I was in my previous relationship, I swear I have no interest into relationship which leads me to having a principle that I will only initiate a serious relationship with the person who will marry me and whom I wanna marry to. Hence, the only previous relationship was started after he came to see my parents. Obviously, there was a flirting phase and crush on each other during the friendship stage. Hahaha

And when it doesn't work out because he suddenly gave up on me, without any reason that I knew, after all the efforts and memories, I was heartbroken mainly because I didn't uphold to my principle of having only 1 relationship in my life. To cut short, I have to move on after my attempts to save the relationship is a failure.

Honestly, after having one relationship, I tend to keep on wanting that special company while I wasn't interested on it before. (I've moved on definitely hahaha) I refused to have any relationship before I move on okay. And then when I came across with a great guy who likes me and makes me like him back, we decided to stay as good friends. Another situation is when I have a crush on someone nice and keep the feelings to myself. But at the end of the day, they found someone else to be their gf. Hahahaha

So guys, lemme ask you, what outcome are you expecting if someone you like, likes you back? If you start of a relationship, you might end up breaking up. If you remain as friends, you might lose that person to someone else. So ottoke? Hahaha

I'm not writing how to move on here, I've wrote it before in my previous post, but the biggest lesson learnt from my one and only failed relationship, is to love yourself more. I have to admit I love my ex to the point that I am willing to die for him. Hahahah cheesy enuf. But during the "move on phase", I focus more on myself, on doing stuff that makes me happy, on achieving my dreams and improve my skills.

I learnt that I can't let anyone especially guys to hurt my feelings, to waste my efforts and to let me down. I set my standards quite high so I won't easily fall for just the "fake first impression" of guys.

And then I really enjoy being single. I might not have someone specific to share my inner issues or someone to regularly profess his love to me, BUT I have freedom to choose whoever guy friends I wanna befriend with. (Read befriend not flirt okay) I strengthen my bond with my girlfriends and spend more time, effort and money with my girlfriends which is more, more and more worth it. I do not have to commit to keep on giving the best to someone nor that I have to maintain a good relationship which obviously involves consoling, sweet talking and cheesy stuff.

Starting a relationship is easy but maintaining it is super hard.

If you guys are in a relationship, kudos for maintaining it till now, (round of applause) but for those who are still single, yeah shout out to you guys who love yourself to the fullest!

I find that at this young age, (still not feeling 22) hahaha I guess if I do have a crush or if anyone has a crush on me, I do NOT see the beneficial outcome out of it. Definitely, both are NOT ready with the responsibility and stability of marriage, so what's the point of having a temporary relationship?

It's hard but I will take the risk that my crush will be lost to someone else, and accept it as fate. (Kalau ada jodoh, tak ke mana kan) Yes, (jodoh pun kena usaha) but let's work on ourselves first and then we can work on it, shall we?

 Remember, heaven lies at your mother's feet. You never know how long you will live and how long she will live, so why bother thinking too much on who you partner is, you might die at young age hahah while the legit paradise that you have now is your mother's happiness.

Some people are just meant to be good friends but not good partners. Sincerely, my ex was really a good friend of mine. I would say, marry but do NOT date your best/close friend because if you break up, you will lose both friend and partner.

"Jodoh itu juga rezeki. Kalau ada, ada. Kalau takda, rezeki lain pasti ada. Yang penting, biar menuju syurga kita." - Acah

                            

If one is enough to make you happy, why need two? 🦋